Leslie Tate

Author and Poet

THREE WORDS, IN BRIEF: Serena, a mermaid, gives up her magic to be with Steve. When he betrays her she is cursed to return to the sea as foam unless she can find another love within a year and a day who will tell her he loves her. Unable to tell anyone of her predicament, she returns to the seaside town where she came ashore to wait out her time, there meeting Seth, his close friends Ethan, Gaia, Tallie and Rob and his Great Aunt Rose. Gradually she begins to find a new life amongst them and she and Seth realise that they have feelings for each other. But Seth has been in and out of a toxic relationship with Jessica for several years and this, along with his difficult childhood, has made it very difficult for him to trust anyone. Love is just a word to him. He is used to people leaving. Although the kindest person imaginable, his behaviour alters when he and Serena become romantically involved; his doubts make him run. As time ticks by Serena realises that she too may have to leave Seth and with a very unsatisfactory explanation, breaking his heart again and compounding his mistrust.

I invited Izzy Robertson, healer and author of four novels published by Magic Oxygen, to write about love and how she explores that theme in her new novel Three Words.

Izzy writes: 

‘Three Words is an exploration of relationships and love, with its many forms and facets. Love can be the purest and most powerful force for good on this earth. But there are many things that can masquerade as love, and some of them just aren’t. Obsession, possession, manipulation, guilt, false expectation; these all feed into the emotions we have around love and how it should be and can completely destroy trust and relationships.

The book is very loosely based around the fairy tale The Little Mermaid, but pleases don’t be put off. It’s not Disney, I assure you! The original fairy tales as I’m sure you know were very much darker and far from sugar sweet. That’s where my interest lies.

But this story is not just about romantic love.

Three Words is about the very strong bond of friendship between Seth, Ethan and Tallie, ex school friends who are still as close as ever. The latter are both in strong, loving relationships, Tallie with Rob and Ethan with Gaia. It is also about family love; Seth, his Great Aunt Rose and Seth’s mother and sister who live in Canada.

As humans I believe that we need to find meaningful connections, and that those can become stronger and deeper with some than others. There are those that social norms expect us to have loving relationships with; parents, siblings, close relatives, close friends. And social norms also tell us that our ‘soulmate’ is out there somewhere, just waiting to be in the right place at the right time to ride off into the sunset.

Izzy Robertson’s previous novel: Dreaming The Moon

All sounds wonderful doesn’t it? And yet so often it doesn’t run smoothly. You can love someone but find their behaviour difficult to tolerate. You can love someone but have a very different point of view. You can love someone with interests different from yours. If both parties can accept and respect those differences then that’s fine. But so often they can’t and that’s where problems begin to arise. One will try and force their opinion on the other; guilt tactics and emotional blackmail can be an extreme form of this. Behaviour can change on both sides. Resentment and anger simmer and can become disproportionate to the issues. Clear communication can become difficult, relationships can break down completely and people still can’t see a way out.

And romantic love? Well, that’s the thing we’re all brought up to believe in, isn’t it? The heart stopping, breathtaking fall into the heart of the perfect other, the one that makes your world whole. The ‘have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince(ss)’, fairy tale forever love that comes with a happily ever after. It’s what most of us hope for, long for, especially when we’re young. Somehow it seems easy then, straightforward. And yet…

The trouble is that the right person doesn’t always appear at the right time or in the right place. And sometimes the experiences they’ve had may change the way they react to the potential for a relationship. As Seth says in the book “Love. I don’t know, Auntie. Love is something that makes people crazy. People do hateful things to each other and call it love.”

I think our expectations of ‘love’, what it is, what it isn’t and what it should be colour the way we behave and approach others, especially in romantic love. We all buy into the premise that ‘true love conquers all’ and ‘love will be enough’. And why not? It’s a wonderful thought. But is it true?

The day I lost my innocence (no, it’s not what you think!), was the day that I realised that love, in and of itself, was not enough to sustain a relationship. No matter how desperately we loved each other, how hard we tried, I was not strong enough to help him defeat his demons and the potential for violence when he was deep in the dark was more than I could cope with. We broke up. Worlds shattered. I didn’t know how I could keep breathing. But I did. And slowly, slowly, time healed the wounds. But it took a long time and my subsequent relationships were badly affected by the mistrust and guilt that I carried from it.

Izzy Robertson

I was lucky. Eventually I met my wonderful husband and we’ve been married 22 years. Like Ethan and Gaia, we say ‘I love you’ every day. He is my saving grace and I have been truly blessed to find a love like this. But it’s not a fairy tale love. It’s grounded and real and built on respect, patience (mainly his!) and open communication. We are very different, but I like to think we balance each other.

So I guess despite the odds, you can have a happy ending. They’re just not necessarily guaranteed. As for Serena and Seth – do they get their happily ever after? You’ll have to read Three Words to find out!’

Next week, blind poet GILES TURNBULL blogs about his world and his writing. Giles’s pamphlet, Dressing Up, is due to be published by Cinnamon Press.

LESLIE TATE’S BOOKS:

  1. Love’s Register tells the story of romantic love and climate change over four UK generations. Beginning with ‘climate children’ Joe, Mia and Cass and ending with Hereiti’s night sea journey across Oceania, the book’s voices take us through family conflicts in the 1920s, the pressures of the ‘free-love 60s’, open relationships in the feminist 80s/90s and a contemporary late-life love affair. Love’s Register is a family saga and a modern psychological novel that explores the way we live now.
    • A signed copy of Love’s Register is available in pounds sterling here.
    • The paperback in other currencies is available here.                                                 
    • Ebook for Kindle in £s here and in $s here.                                                           
    • For other ebook reading devices here (all currencies). 
  2. Heaven’s Rage is a memoir that explores addiction, cross-dressing, bullying and the hidden sides of families, discovering at their core the transformative power of words to rewire the brain and reconnect with life. “A Robin Red breast in a Cage / Puts all Heaven in a Rage” – William Blake. You can read more about/buy Heaven’s Rage here.
  3. The Dream Speaks Back, written by Sue Hampton, Cy Henty and Leslie Tate, is a joint autobiography exploring imagination and the adult search for the inner child. The book looks at gender difference, growing up in unusual families and mental health issues. It’s also a very funny portrait of working in the arts, full of crazy characters, their ups and downs, and their stories. You can buy a signed copy of The Dream Speaks Back here

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  1. Splendid book review and exploration of the topic of love. I have put this on my TBR for 2017. Tweeted this review on @bakeandwrite.

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